From Reader 1: I have always wanted to have a lot of money. However, I’m scared that the money will change me into a person I don’t want to be. What is your advice to someone who wants the money but not the rich, cocky, snobby attitude?
Here’s the thing about money, it doesn’t change people, but it does amplify what people already are on the inside. Let’s take a look at a very specific group of people and see how money has affected them. These people literally became millionaires overnight. And the work they put into becoming millionaires was spending a dollar or two on a lottery ticket. The weekend comes and boom! Their freakin’ millionaires.
Here’s what happens next. Some of these people will seek out financial and legal advice before they even cash in their winning ticket. Once they have all their ducks in a row they take care of all their family members, donate to their favorite charities, maybe do something nice for themselves and then invest the rest with the guidance of professionals.
On the other hand, there will be people who will take all the money and go shopping. They’ll buy new homes, new cars, take a few trips around the world, make some really bad investments. Within a few years they’ll be standing before a judge in bankruptcy court.
Now, if money has a negative effect on people, then how did the first group I mentioned fare so well? Like I said earlier, money amplifies what’s inside you—your traits, your beliefs, your attitudes, all your good and bad points. If you’re disciplined, more money will make you more disciplined. If you’re a nice person, more money will make you an even nicer person. If you’re a jerk, more money will make you an even bigger jerk. Okay? So if you don’t have a cocky, snobby attitude now, you won’t have one after you become wealthy.
Now, let’s go a step further because I hear these “I can’t get rich because” excuses all the time. “I’m scared that the money will change me” is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t be rich.” It’s camouflaging the real reason behind your reluctance to get rich. Usually, it’s a lack of a certain skill or skills necessary to achieve success. So what should you do? You go out and get the skills you need.
Here’s another thing and I’ll wrap it up here. I can pretty much guarantee you that if your boss told you today he’s doubling your salary, you would not refuse it because you’re scared the money will change you. If you won the lottery today, you wouldn’t refuse that either. You want to make a lot of money? Then stop wanting to be rich and commit to being rich. Stop focusing on obstacles and begin looking for the opportunities. They’re everywhere.
From Reader 2: Jordan, thank you much for creating a line of differences between visions , goals & fear. Recently, I had an interview, he asked me to tell him what my parents think about me. Now, in my whole life I wasn’t expecting that question. My parents think of me as a looser, shy, ugly, fat. At the end I make the blunder I said the same. Here I am an unprofessional one. I was shaking. What is the best response for these kind of questions?
A lot can happen in a job interview that you don’t expect. It’s not that the interviewer is trying to trip you up or discourage you. The interviewer has an obligation to his employer to find the best person for the job. That means having the necessary skills to qualify is only the beginning. The interviewer also needs to assess your ability to fit in with potential coworkers, supervisors and the general work environment.
Even more than fit in, can you complement and enhance the existing personnel structure? Can you think fast on your feet, think outside the proverbial box, and maintain your composure under pressure?
Beyond ability, there’s attitude. Does the interviewer get the sense that you want to work for this company and that you’d be happy there if you got the job? A lot of this hinges on your attitude about yourself.
The best response is always an honest response, but you don’t want to shoot yourself in the foot for being honest. What your parents think about you isn’t as important as what you think about you. In the case of a job interview, your attitude hinges on the certainty, or the lack of certainty, you have in your ability to do the job you’re interviewing for.
If you know what you’re doing, if you know what you’re talking about and if you’re passionate about both, it’ll come through loud and clear in the interview. The interviewer won’t have to ask what your parents think about you. Unprofessional may not be the best way to describe the way you handled yourself in that interview situation. Unprepared may be more accurate.
Your situation is a great example of why everyone needs to learn persuasion skills. That’s because everyone, many times in their life, has to play the part of the salesman. The product they’re selling is themselves.
And last week I wrote about the advantage of gathering intelligence. No one should go on a job interview without first gathering as much intelligence as they can about the interview process. There are plenty of websites that list the most asked questions and the most offbeat questions.
Gather intelligence about the company you’re interviewing with. Understand the culture, the philosophy and the vision. Find out what the company needs, then tailor your abilities accordingly. The more of a match you are the more certainty you’ll have when you sit down with the interviewer.
All the best,